If you are the friend or a loved one of someone
who is being abused or has been sexually assaulted . . .

Please know that you can call our 24-hour Crisis & Support Line
for assistance, information and support:

#315.468.3260 - domestic violence
#315.422.7273 - sexual assault
#315.484.7263 - TTY (business hours)

◊ Learn what you can about the impact and effects of domestic violence or sexual assault.

◊ Be patient and allow the victim to tell her/his story.

◊ Offer resources and options. Try not to tell a victim what he/she should do. Remember they often feel powerless and feel like they have no control or choices. Assist them in regaining power and the ability to choose for themselves.

◊ Know that being present and bearing witness to someone’s trauma and story empowers, validates and shows concern. 

◊ Always talk about safety.

◊ Always get support for yourself. Helping and caretaking can take a great deal of time, energy and resources. Model the benefits of group/community support to your loved one by asking for assistance for yourself. You too are a precious resource and need to be refilled and replenished.

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If your friend or loved one is the victim of domestic abuse or violence
click here to learn more about how to help:

If your friend or loved one is the victim of rape or sexual assault
click here to learn more about how to help:

 

Recommended reading:

"Helping Her get Free;
A Guide for Families and Friends of Abused Women"
by Susan Brewster, M.S.S.W

"Partners in Healing:
A Handbook for Partners of Rape Survivors"
by Teri Platt

"Helping Your Child Recover from Sexual Abuse"
by Jennifer, Caren & Fay Adams

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“True service is not a relationship
between an expert and a problem.

True service is the final healing
of isolation and loneliness.

It is the lived experience
of belonging.”

Rachel Naomi Remen, M.D.